Prescription: More sex

 When men and women agree, it is only in their conclusions; their reasons are always different.

                                         George Santayana (1863–1952), U.S. philosopher, poet

At first glance, this looks a lot like the punch line of a joke. The male and female brains are proven to be different, and that is observable in our communications. Seems like communication between any two people is somewhat hit-or-miss, as of course it would be because there are too many variables involved. The key words in what you say may have a slightly different meaning to the listener, or might call up a bad memory that colors the way your statement is received. Your mood or intentions may be misread, and change the interpretation of your words. Or in the case of a male/female exchange, you would likely find on closer examination that your paths to the same conclusion are completely unrelated, and I do mean completely; I’ve seen this for myself. To my astonishment. You can investigate this on your own, if you dare.

I’ll get to the sex part…hang on.

 

So when you talk to your mate, even to carry on about how much you love her, and how wonderful she is, you don’t know exactly how that is received. Worst case example, maybe you use a phrase that she’s heard before elsewhere, in a relationship that ended very badly. She thinks it’s a big lie. You never know. While you think you’re being attentive and loving and all that, you might actually be creating an “issue” that will surface somewhere down the line. The spoken word depends on the listener to extract meaning. It’s a lousy system!

So…what’s to be done?

Enter the wordless realm of sex. Even in the silence (optional), it is still up to each of you to extract meaning from your intimacy. With sex, it’s not just that you feel good physically; aware or not, you are interpreting the attentiveness and care of your partner as messages of love, and the brilliance is that it’s in your own mind, in the words you choose, and the message you receive is exactly what you want to hear. There are no misunderstandings in passionate kisses. As a result, having sex recharges your emotional and mental stores, the innermost parts of your being that benefit from being in love. Self-esteem, confidence, comfort, security, etc…all that good stuff.

Frequent sex serves a vital purpose, then, besides being whole lots of fun. The reinforcement of your love trivializes any petty spats, and periods of intimacy enhance your tendency toward cooperation, to work through the real problems. It creates and maintains a strong undercurrent of unspoken love and understanding, and this force makes it easier for two people to work together on life’s challenges.

More sex: it's good for you. It's what's for dinner. Mmm mmm good. No, wait...umm...